invitation pays.
Neither background automatically determines the correct arrangement.
Couples create their own system.
But they can only do that by talking.
A secret test removes that opportunity.
One partner knows the rules.
The other partner does not.
The person designing the test can then interpret almost any response in whatever way supports the conclusion they already wanted to reach.
That is why she rejected the idea that refusing the $190 bill proved she was unwilling to contribute financially to a marriage.
Those were two completely different situations.
She had never said she expected her boyfriend to support her indefinitely.
She had never said she would refuse to pay household expenses.
She had never said financial responsibility belonged entirely to him.
She had simply refused an unexpectedly large restaurant expense that he had chosen without consulting her.
The context mattered.
Imagine the situation reversed.
If she had announced that she
